Writer's Block: How could you?
Would you ever take someone back after they cheated on you, and why? What could change your mind?

I've always said that if a guy cheated on me that I wouldn't take him back. The truth is I really don't know. If it were a boyfriend then I would probably end the relationship. However, things get more complicated when you invest time in a marriage not to mention if you have children. I think it is possible for someone to be unfaithful and not do it again. I think the more important question is how much do you really love the person your with and more importantly; how much does the person you're with love you? I think it is possible to get back on course with a relationship after one of you cheats but it all comes down to how hard you're willing to fight for it.

Writer's Block: Living in the limelight
Do you think parents should have the right to post public pictures and videos of their children on the Internet? Why or why not?

I don't think it's a question of "do parents have the right" as long as the pictures are appropriate. It's more of a question of "is it smart for parents to post public pictures and videos of their children." I think it wiser not to just because you really have no idea who's looking at the pictures. You just can't ever be to careful.

Obama to sign law ending military gay ban
Hillary Clinton
By ANNE FLAHERTY, Associated Press

WASHINGTON – In a historic vote for gay rights, the Senate agreed on Saturday to do away with the military's 17-year ban on openly gay troops and sent President Barack Obama legislation to overturn the Clinton-era policy known as "don't ask, don't tell."

Obama was expected to sign the bill into law next week, although changes to military policy probably wouldn't take effect for at least several months. Under the bill, the president and his top military advisers must first certify that lifting the ban won't hurt troops' ability to fight. After that, the military would undergo a 60-day wait period.

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Repeal would mean that, for the first time in American history, gays would be openly accepted by the armed forces and could acknowledge their sexual orientation without fear of being kicked out.

More than 13,500 service members have been dismissed under the 1993 law.

"It is time to close this chapter in our history," Obama said in a statement. "It is time to recognize that sacrifice, valor and integrity are no more defined by sexual orientation than they are by race or gender, religion or creed."

The Senate voted 65-31 to pass the bill, with eight Republicans siding with 55 Democrats and two independents in favor of repeal. The House had passed an identical version of the bill, 250-175, earlier this week.

Supporters hailed the Senate vote as a major step forward for gay rights. Many activists hope that integrating openly gay troops within the military will lead to greater acceptance in the civilian world, as it did for blacks after President Harry Truman's 1948 executive order on equal treatment regardless of race in the military.

"The military remains the great equalizer," said Sen. John Kerry, D-Mass. "Just like we did after President Truman desegregated the military, we'll someday look back and wonder what took Washington so long to fix it."

Sen. John McCain, Obama's GOP rival in 2008, led the opposition. Speaking on the Senate floor minutes before a crucial test vote, the Arizona Republican acknowledged he couldn't stop the bill. He blamed elite liberals with no military experience for pushing their social agenda on troops during wartime.

"They will do what is asked of them," McCain said of service members. "But don't think there won't be a great cost."

How the military will implement a change in policy, and how long that will take remains unclear. Senior Pentagon officials have said the new policy could be rolled out incrementally, service by service or unit by unit.

In a statement issued immediately after the vote, Defense Secretary Robert Gates said he will begin the certification process immediately. But any change in policy won't come until after careful consultation with military service chiefs and combatant commanders, he said.

"Successful implementation will depend upon strong leadership, a clear message and proactive education throughout the force," he said.

Adm. Mike Mullen, chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, said he welcomes the change.

"No longer will able men and women who want to serve and sacrifice for their country have to sacrifice their integrity to do so," he said. "We will be a better military as a result."

Sen. Carl Levin, a chief proponent of repeal, said he has received a commitment from the administration that it won't drag its heels.

"We hope it will be sooner, rather than later," he said.

The fate of "don't ask, don't tell" had been far from certain earlier this year when Obama called for its repeal in his State of the Union address. Despite strong backing from liberals in Congress, Republicans and conservative Democrats remained skeptical that lifting the ban could be done quickly without hurting combat operations in Iraq and Afghanistan.

In February, provided the momentum Obama needed by telling a packed Senate hearing room that he felt the law was unjust. As chairman of the Joint Chiefs of Staff, Mullen became the first senior active-duty officer in the military to suggest that gays could serve openly without affecting military effectiveness.

"No matter how I look at the issue," Mullen said, "I cannot escape being troubled by the fact that we have in place a policy which forces young men and women to lie about who they are in order to defend their fellow citizens."

With Mullen's backing, Gates ordered a yearlong study on the impact, including a survey of troops and their families.

The study, released Nov. 30, found that two-thirds of service members didn't think changing the law would have much of an effect. But of those who did predict negative consequences, most were assigned to combat arms units. The statistic became ammunition for opponents of repeal, including the service chiefs of the Army and Marine Corps.

"I don't want to lose any Marines to the distraction," Gen. James Amos, head of the Marine Corps, told reporters. "I don't want to have any Marines that I'm visiting at Bethesda (Naval Medical Center) with no legs be the result of any type of distraction."

Mullen and Gates counter that the fear of disruption is overblown and could be addressed through training. They note the Pentagon's finding that 92 percent of troops who believe they have served with a gay person saw no effect on their units' morale or effectiveness.

But even with backing from Gates and Mullen, the bill appeared all but dead this month when Senate Republicans united against it on procedural grounds. In last-minute wrangling, Senate Majority Leader Harry Reid was able to revive the bill during the rare Saturday session with just days to go before the lame-duck session was to end.

The Republicans who voted for repeal said the Pentagon study on gays and assurances from senior military leaders played a crucial role.

"The repeal of 'don't ask, don't tell' will be implemented in a common sense way," said Ohio Republican Sen. George Voinovich. "Our military leaders have assured Congress that our troops will engage in training and address relevant issues before instituting this policy change."

Advocacy groups were jubilant following the Senate's initial test vote that passed 63-33 and set up final passage. The Servicemembers Legal Defense Network called the issue the "defining civil rights initiative of this decade." Supporters of repeal filled the visitor seats overlooking the Senate floor, ready to protest had the bill failed.

"This has been a long-fought battle, but this failed and discriminatory law will now be history," said Joe Solmonese, president of the Human Rights Campaign.

Writer's Block: Ready, steady, read
What is the best book you've read this year, and why?

I actually read an amazing book and an amazing series this year. The book was by a new arthor name Kate Quinn. The is called Mistress of Rome, it's about a jewish slave girl who falls in love with a gladiator. It was such a great book. The series I read was called Percy Jackson and the Olympians by Rick Riordan. It's actually a children's series wrotten much like the Harry Potter novels. It's about a boy who finds out he's a child of the Gods. You should definately check out Percy Jackson and Mistress of Rome, both are absolutely amazing reads, but if you love the Percy Jackson books my advice is DO NOT WATCH THE MOVIIE it's terrible.

Which Battlestar Galactica Character Are You?
Bill carrying Laura

Writer's Block: Sheldon and Penny 4ever!
Bill carrying Laura
Fanfiction: Do you love it or hate it, or are you totally indifferent? Why?

I always thought it was kind of stupid until I got addicted to Battlestar Galactica. Now, I love it! I can't get enough Battlestar fanfiction. Lets face it I know it sounds sad but the death of Laura Roslin (Adama) left a huge whole in my heart that will never be filled. I have to read fanfiction in order to dream about of what might have been if she had lived. Damn Ron Moore and David Eicks for wanting to be realistic. I mean come on I'm sure if they thought hard enough they could have found some legitimate cure for terminal breast cancer.

Writer's Block: First and only
Is there a film that you think is perfect in its original form and should never be remade?

Dances with Wolves with out a doubt.

Decisions Decisions
Ok, so it's been almost a month since I graduated from basic and I thought I was ok and ready to move on. It's not that I want to go back to basic in fact I would never do basic over again; it's just I'm not adjusting well here at AIT. I thought I would be overjoyed and that I would start to enjoy the Army more but I hate it more than ever. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I wish I had never signed that stupid contract. I wake up every single day and the only thing I can focus on is the possibility of being deployed to Afghanistan. I knew it was a possibility when I joined but it's not exactly real when you're just putting your name on a piece of paper. However, when they were showing us pictures of people with their face blown off it got a lot more real and fucking terrifying. I'm torn between sticking it out and finding a way out. I just don't know what to do.

My two best friends have already told me that they would support whatever decision I make but I'm concerned about my mom and what she would think of me if I were to quit. I stupidly never thought it would be this hard. I'm sure if my job in Afghanistan consisted of simply sitting behind a desk on a base that I would be fine, but the thought of me kicking down doors or being on convoys scares the shit out of me. I don't know how to get past the feeling that if I go to Afghanistan that I'm not coming back alive.

I've talked to my mom and she suggested that I go and talk to the Chaplin so I had my platoon sergeant. I really hope he can get me an appointment soon. I need to talk to someone but I'm scared to talk to one of my platoon sergeants. I mean how do you go up to and NCO who eat, breaths, and shits Army and tell him that you hate it and that you're terrified to get deployed. I just feel so fucking stupid.

I'm just so confused.........

Extra Extra Read All About It........ Risingstar0783 Graduates Basic
Star Wars Penguin
I graduated from basic on March 26 and now I'm moving onto AIT at Fort Gordon. I'm half excited and still half mentally exhausted. I'm soooooooooo glad basic is over. I was overjoyed that my mom will get to take me to AIT so I'm getting to spend sometime with my family. I was actually suppose to report on March 27 but when I got there my platton sergeant informed me that because I was POV I haad the option to leave and be back at 1400 today. It sucks that we drove all the way Augusta Georgia just to come back to Columbia but I was so happy I had that option. So I go back today and start a month as the Armies bitch. I was also informed upon arrival yesterday that my classes won't start for a month. lol

Thanks to everyone for their encouragement and advice. Lets hope AIT goes by just as fast.

Army Email
My Army email address is lacy.goins@us.army.mil in case anyone wants to send me an email while I'm away.


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